Too cute and very aware is my description of our guy this week. Unfortunately the second set of adjectives opens a new can of worms. On Monday, he hit another boy in his class - of course the one who is a few heads taller than him. We talked to him and stressed NO HITTING. I went through a list of everyone in his class, adults and children: Did you hit. . . He nodded yes for the same boy that his teacher told me he hit. Oddly he also nodded yes for one of the assistant teachers. I didn't know about that. On Tuesday, I asked her if James hit her and she said YES (but sweetly made excuses for him, that it was out of frustration)!! Can you believe it? I almost burst into tears. He COMMUNICATED TO ME, correctly. Amazingly, James listened to us and did not hit the next day. Instead, when he was frustrated - he did not want to go to the potty - he chomped down on his arm rather than hit. He did a good job too. I have got to ease his frustration. Get him to communicate instead of freaking out. His teacher suggested flash cards that say NO HITTING or NO BITING and show a little kid sitting nicely. I hope this is a suggestion that came from the top of her head. This is what is supposed to help my child cope, ease his mind, in the middle of a meltdown? Don't hit or bite or some way get instant attention, sit nicely? "Normal" adults participate in a variety of activities to ease stress and frustration. And a kid, who is dealing with a lot of messed up issues, is just supposed to switch it off? I was so dumbfounded that I just took James hand and left. Lordy, we need a school meeting pronto. Don't worry, it's in the works.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Day by Day
Too cute and very aware is my description of our guy this week. Unfortunately the second set of adjectives opens a new can of worms. On Monday, he hit another boy in his class - of course the one who is a few heads taller than him. We talked to him and stressed NO HITTING. I went through a list of everyone in his class, adults and children: Did you hit. . . He nodded yes for the same boy that his teacher told me he hit. Oddly he also nodded yes for one of the assistant teachers. I didn't know about that. On Tuesday, I asked her if James hit her and she said YES (but sweetly made excuses for him, that it was out of frustration)!! Can you believe it? I almost burst into tears. He COMMUNICATED TO ME, correctly. Amazingly, James listened to us and did not hit the next day. Instead, when he was frustrated - he did not want to go to the potty - he chomped down on his arm rather than hit. He did a good job too. I have got to ease his frustration. Get him to communicate instead of freaking out. His teacher suggested flash cards that say NO HITTING or NO BITING and show a little kid sitting nicely. I hope this is a suggestion that came from the top of her head. This is what is supposed to help my child cope, ease his mind, in the middle of a meltdown? Don't hit or bite or some way get instant attention, sit nicely? "Normal" adults participate in a variety of activities to ease stress and frustration. And a kid, who is dealing with a lot of messed up issues, is just supposed to switch it off? I was so dumbfounded that I just took James hand and left. Lordy, we need a school meeting pronto. Don't worry, it's in the works.
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